Dear Natural Hair Community
A few weeks ago, I made a post on Facebook that read, “Dear Natural Hair Community…..Bye.” I made the decision to relax my natural afro, and it was the absolute BEST decision I have made for my hair. Natural hair is definitely a lifestyle and a commitment. As a stylist, I see a lot of clients each week. As they sit in my chair, I hear the moans and groans and struggle with hair. Some of my Natural hair clients complain about the maintenance and effort that is required to style their hair. Some relaxed hair clients complain about being bored with their hair and having the fear of coloring their hair with a relaxer. Everyone has a struggle!! The best advice I can give is to PICK YOUR STRUGGLE.
Pick Your Struggle
What type of lifestyle do you have? Are you active with workouts? Do you sweat alot? Are you hormonal and suffering from private summers? These are all things to consider. How committed are you to seeing a stylist? Do you have a hair maintenance routine for day and night? Asking yourself questions like this can help you to determine if natural hair is for you. Another question I like to ask is, your “why?” Why are you desiring to transition to natural? Often times, knowing your why will keep you focused on the course of going natural when the transition begins to get difficult.
Know your look
This was my issue. I had a certain look that I wanted to achieve and the natural afro just didn’t provide that for me. I’m in love with my pixie cut. I can have the versatility with styling that I want. The maintenance is super low and I’m able to keep it shampood and styled every week with no problems. My night time routine is simple and doesn’t require a lot of effort on my part. These were all important to me. My natural curls required a lot of guess work for me, as well as time and products. To some, natural hair is a no brainer and can be maintained with little to no products, mine was certainly not that case. My curls were dry and required constant moisture and styling aides. After a few weeks of melting down in my bathroom, I knew, “Natural hair wasn’t for me.”
I wrote this post to encourage those of you who are on the fence with your hair. Be fearless in making your decision and choose you. Don’t make the decision to be relaxed or relaxer free out of obligation. This is a decision that should be made based upon lifestyle and personal preference. When you past by a mirror, you have to be happy with what you see, and that is what the decision all boils down to. If you would like an appointment to discuss options for your hair, feel free to schedule one with me by CLICKING HERE.